Everyone once in a while, I see a young girl with a
bowl cut, or even worse, a vintage, authentic Dorothy Hamill wedge. This really chaps my hide. Why? Because no little girl, no matter how tom- boyish or sporty, wants hair like that, at that age. This is the age of wanting to be princesses and movie stars. Not the land of gender-non-specific styles. This is the land of Barbie, My Little Pony, Hello Kitty, and Polly Pockets.
Every once in a while the hair is explained by a mischievous sibling with scissors. Then, there are the moms with the same haircut, bent on making little cookie cut-outs of themselves. Those are definitely "woman, thy name is vanity" moments. Then, there are the femini-nazi moms bent on making their child not capitulate to a man driven culture. Bleck!
Then...and THEN (with raised voice I type)...there are the LAZY or CRUEL moms. You know who you are. You are the beautiful trophy wives, with lush, long tresses, beautifully highlighted. You have the fake-bake tans and six packs from hours at the gym. Your daughters have the chopped, stringy locks--because it's "easier" to take care of. You would rather spend all the time on you. You are usually perfectly Gucci-ed and bling-ed out, while you child has crusty food on their faces, boogers in their noses, and are usually out of shape because of the time spent babysat in front of a video, while mommy takes care of herself. You think you are clever, but the real reason is that you don't want the competition. You are the young, sexy 2nd wife. The step-up for your powerful executive husband. The trade in for his starter wife, so you don't want to remind him that youth and bouncy boobs are fleeting. Your daughter would be that reminder. So you neglect your darling daughter.
For shame, let your daughters wear pink. Let them have their Rapunzel hair. For there is nothing more
beautiful than a forming feminine being, secure in what she want to be, what she likes, and is happy who she is:
PB embracing her inner femininity three years ago this month
These early years may be the only time she doesn't pick apart her figure, her looks, and her flaws. It may be the only time she doesn't self-doubt. She can be anybody and today and for a few tomorrows, she wants to be a ballerina or pop star. LET HER BE! There's plenty of time to let her become sporty, brainy, preppy, etc. There's plenty of time for her to build the worry about what her Mom, her friends, her peers think. For now, it's innate for her to be pretty in pink. Step back. Get rid of your feminist or selfish agendas. Let her be.
Now, about you moms that let your boys have hair long enough that they are mistaken for girls, let's make it brief: You suck sweaty goal balls too!
2 Witty Comments For Me:
It's not just the trophy wife who's lazy. It's the first-wife, too. The woman who makes sure she traps a man whom she knows will be able to make enough money so doesn't have to get a job. She has a kid or two and she's set for life- chauffering the kids around all day in her Mercedes, Lexus or Audi suv (while chattting to her other lazy housefrau girlfriends on the cell phone), getting her hair and nails done twice a week, shopping, picking up dinner from the local gourmet store and then going home to heat it up.
Go into a supermarket. Notice how everything that the multinational food and household products companies create today is marketed toward the lazy housefrau. Instant, "easy-bake" or microwavable food, tear off and throw-away cleaning items.
The excuse for all them, of course is "oh, it's so hard to raise kids".
It is a great gig if you can land the right (clueless) man.
You have some points, anon. Especially if said wife also has the nanny, gardener and housekeeper like they do in my neighborhood.
However, if they don't? full-time job of driving, making healthy meals, checking homework, cleaning house, all while volunteering in their kids' schools. I personally spend anywhere form 2o-25 hours weekly working at the school or working at something at home for the school/PTA. That in itself is almost a full-time job.
So you won't find me in the nail salon and 9 times out of 10, I cut my own hair as well as my husbands, 2 sons, and daughter. I mow the lawn and garden and do the heavy lifting in my household.
"Housefraus" have certainly metamorphosed over the years. And yes, there are still some bad ones like I mentioned.
You know I don't mind the long hair as long as it is shaped and groomed. We just have so many perfect little wives around here with kids that are a wreck--dirty, long nails, greasy hair, overweight while mom is a perfectly coiffed, waxed, highlighted, and plucked size 2.
I am guilty of the opposite. Sacrificing myself for the kids. I just wish there was some balance in my community in favor of the kids.
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