Mother-in-Law Rant: Dumbstruck

Yes, this is a mother-in-law rant.

It stuns me that I can still be shaking my head dumbstruck with her even across three states and having not spoken in four years.

You see she still has contact with my husband and kids which I encourage. I just knew for my marriage's sake and emotional well-being, I needed to limit contact.

The hurt and anger is still there all these years, but it has dimmed considerably.

I've considered reconciliation and then ridiculous and quite silly circumstances like these come up.

So why am I bringing it up now?

Well, it seems both PB and Eldest invited their "Bunia" to be their friend on Facebook. It's reasonable. They also befriended my sister-in-law which I also haven't spoken to since she pretty much started this schism with her selfish ways.

I would never deny them their aunt nor their grandmother.

Back to Facebook, Bunia doesn't have a Facebook account. My mother-in-law has this intense fear of having her personal information stolen on the Internet. So much so that my husband was asking me to break into Eldest's Facebook account this morning so he could capture screen shots.

Why?

To prove to her how her profile appears to her friends and what it looks like to the rest of the world. She has it on highest privacy settings so even my kids, her only Facebook friends, can't see her information or even an email address.

Yet, she is still suspicious.

The world sees nothing.

This isn't unreasonable. In fact, it's entirely her choice to guard her personal information as she feels fit.

Why does this disturb me?

This is after all the woman who once railed at me because I sent a picture of my son on a birthday invitation postcard which had his name, our phone number, address, etc. Surely, it could have fallen into "the wrong hands."

Again, pushy in business not her own, but following a pattern. Consistency I can respect.

Until we get to this:

This same woman who thinks having her "friends" see her email address as egregious? And having her grandson's info on a postcard for a postal worker to see is up there with unforgivable?

This same woman nonchalantly scribed my name and my husband's names, addresses, phone number, and personal email addresses on a form to a time share company so she could get a measly discount and free gift on a second time share.

Without asking.

Without mention even until I asked when I started getting email from these spammers at my email account I use only for family and friends. My pristine, spam-free account.

Without apology.

Five years later?

I am still getting spam from Sedona timeshare companies. I also am on some Sedona spa's email distribution list as well--despite asking to be taken off.

Seems somehow my email got put on that list too.

Did I mention that I have never been to Sedona?

So must go. My husband wants me to email him that screen shot so that he can calm his mother's nerves. However, I have one question:

Does anyone else see the irony here?


Thx for the flickr pics by weebsie

'lisciously scribed by Scout's Honor @ 8:23 AM