Spoiled on Valentine's Day...and Feeling The Guilt
I am feeling both spoiled... and like a chump right now.
I thought we were spending Valentine's on a date. We made dinner plans and chose a suitably romantic movie. I thought that was our gift to each other. Then I got breakfast delivered to me--freshly baked vanilla bread pudding.
What strikes fear in every woman who is trying to lose weight's heart? The pink box.
When I saw the pink box any woman who is trying to lose weight dreads, my heart fell. Then it crescendo-ed when he said with a gentle smile it was filled with fresh laundry. No scary, skimpy piece of lace. Nope, he did my laundry. He gets me!
Then I saw the roses. No fanfare. Left for me to find after he left for work. My friends? I thought the date was our gift. I had nothing for him.
Chump. And now for more chump....
For the kids, we didn't do our usually elaborate Valentines. Store bought with a cute backpack pin and blow pop at the last minute seemed just fine to Li'l Man.
PB and Eldest had made such a stink last year about having to carry around Valentine's treats that I took them at their word. PB even reminded me several weeks ago of the horrible mom I was "forcing her" to carry around a basket of treats at Halloween treats to all her classes. She did not want a repeat.
Then last night, both she and Eldest, realizing I was taking them at their word, asked at 9 PM if we could go to the store for treats for their friends.
I said no way. I felt a little miffed they expected me to go to the store last minute. I felt unappreciated from past years of staying up until midnight for their over the top treats for all their friends. So? I held my ground even though PB was working her incredible disappointed, sad baby girl face...
This morning I got this box from them. My husband and the kids had made a box full of handmade caramels, dipped in chocolate, and sprinkled with sea salt. My favorite:
PB was chosen as the box decorator and every inch of the box was covered:
She left for school with no Valentines and with me feeling even more guilt.
I ended up getting showered in breakfast made for me, handmade chocolates, and roses. I let life distract me and gave nothing in return. Who knew gifts could make a mother feel so craptacular. Sigh...
7 comments:
That is just the worst when that happens. My wife and I have decided to do something simple for each other but there have been times that we have said that and one or the other does something more. Enjoy the stuff and know that you are LOVED!
Murph - you are loved, that's what you should keep in the forefront.
When we were in the store the other night and you were checking out the caramels, I knew I hit a home run (as long as they have a caramel texture, not toffee) because you got a giant box of caramels made with love (and no candy thermometer, we had to use the water-ball test).
And I get some benefits from these too!
I plan on eating some of those caramels, too. I've not had any of the chocolate covered ones yet and I had two muffins with breakfast and one in my lunch!
I love you very much and am really looking forward to our date!
Awww... that's sweet :)
Awwww, I loved reading this.
Happy Valentine's Day :)
It's great to be loved! And even better when you know you're loved unconditionally!
Somehow I think it will all even out down the road!
It was no chump that met me at the door last night with a baxon bouquet and chocolate. That was the coolest thing ever.
I love you so much
Happy Day after Valentine's Day.
Gifts aren't given with the expectation of being given something in return. Additionally, you show your love for your family every day, not on some "hallmark holiday". Why must we buy into commercialism on 1 day of the year and say we love you to family and friends and shower them with gifts. Every day is a day for love.. dont wait for next February! And stop being so hard on yourself
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