tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post268237943855683089..comments2010-02-26T11:36:43.753-08:00Scout's Honorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13583814670832501297scout@unitedstatesofmotherhood.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-31409672310847650852010-02-26T11:36:43.753-08:002010-02-26T11:36:43.753-08:00My last comment was re: the Alice in Wonderland J.Depp circus show. That&#39;s a whole nother business.<br />I hope you are feeling better? You touched on so much that IS life. Kids, family, cars, love, loss, death and health. i hope you know that in my opinion- you got it right... except for one thing- this is not the last father/dance by a long shot.<br />hugs,<br />Maripractical(ly) Mom(me)http://www.blogger.com/profile/14604590311995733093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-49145050432419805272010-02-26T06:47:15.713-08:002010-02-26T06:47:15.713-08:00Glad to hear you are ok .. I missed your blog very much --- you are that little bit of perspective that is much needed in the chaos of my days.<br /><br />I am sooo sorry about your sister and your friend. It is my only nightmare -- that I wont be around to see my son grow-up and that he is too young to remember me if something happens to me now.<br /><br />take care of yourself!!Charithahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05200109423534695862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-80085726955391197182010-02-25T21:21:36.997-08:002010-02-25T21:21:36.997-08:00One of the biggest wake-up calls for me was losing my sister to non-smoking related lung cancer at the age of 25. She was diagnosed 2 days after her son was born, died when he was 4 1/2 months old.<br /><br />I ended up leaving a relationship that I did not realize how unhappy I was with until I actually left. One of the things I realized was that I wanted children and I never could have them with him, yet I could no longer lie to myself and say I didn&#39;t want them either.<br /><br />I&#39;ve also learned that sometimes you got to take care of you. In a Weight Watchers meeting, we talked about how the airplane safety always says to put on your air mask before you help your child. If you are incapacitated, you can&#39;t help your child. In the same vain, how can you be there for your kids, if you aren&#39;t there for yourself? It&#39;s not neglecting them. It&#39;s being healthy so you will be there for them.<br /><br />I&#39;m sorry about your sister and your friend. Those are both difficult losses to deal with.Lyndahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09006769361944989651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-26519172500978737912010-02-23T21:23:53.163-08:002010-02-23T21:23:53.163-08:00Yet another great post. I love you very much because you are a great Mom and Wife. <br /><br />And for the record, there are no tears Welling in my eyes right now. Yeah, right.Beauhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04833997428265711633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-69728631274830486632010-02-23T17:22:34.254-08:002010-02-23T17:22:34.254-08:00Life sometimes can be pretty shitty. I truly understand where you are coming from.<br /><br />I&#39;ve had cancer twice. I first had it at 18. That woke me up early. this isn&#39;t a practice session. Shit happens. Don&#39;t ask why me, say why not me and get on with it. <br /><br />I just got my youngest home last week from his 16th? 17th? back surgery. (There have been so many I have lost track) He will have maybe another 15-20 surgeries to go. <br /><br />Plan for the future, focus on the now. Spend what time you can with your kids, not worrying about how you are going to do x or y. Your kids need you. You need your kids, your husband. <br /><br />Guess I am saying that its good that you are taking care of yourself. Don&#39;t sell yourself short. It&#39;s never too late to start. Be the best you that you can be. It doesn&#39;t matter if the cupboards haven&#39;t been dusted, or that the furniture doesn&#39;t match. That is superficial crap. The kids are going to remember how you took care of you and them, and the times you and the hubby have spent doing things with them, even the crappy times. I promise. <br /><br />BekiBekihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03968496658331508227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-87578201965560748112010-02-23T17:04:21.708-08:002010-02-23T17:04:21.708-08:00So glad to hear you are ok. You have had more than your share of troubles....Neva Floreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04526666908406849762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-14713919744789196242010-02-23T12:54:42.276-08:002010-02-23T12:54:42.276-08:00So sorry for your sister&#39;s miscarriage. Even sorrier for the loss of your friend, but glad that her passing was a wake-up call to trim your insane schedule and take care of YOU.JamaGeniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16973656461323918279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711314660374261745.post-10913820676004926932010-02-23T12:16:11.164-08:002010-02-23T12:16:11.164-08:00Wow. <br />I&#39;m very glad to hear that there is nothing wrong with your brain. I could insert a joke here but I&#39;m not gonna...<br />I&#39;m sorry about your sister and your friend. Being dealt whammies like that can definitely put one off of one&#39;s blogging.Dumblondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08472225571357745676noreply@blogger.com